A relationship needs to move forward.

I guess how I feel about relationships is kind of like that old joke from Annie Hall.  A relationship is like a shark.  It needs to move forward or it dies.  Maybe I'm the one who's closed off and incapable of accepting happiness, but I think knowing about dead sharks has probably ruined me for relationships.  Being wonderful isn't enough to end up together.

Last week at Tina's party:

“What happened with that guy from last summer?”

“It fizzled.”


“I mean, it didn't go anywhere.”

“He's not from New Zealand, is he?”

“No, he's thousands of miles away from here.”


On IM: 

“I thought you had a BOYFRIEND?”

“No, we're just friends.”

“Does HE know that?”

“Yes, he doesn’t want ‘more’ either.”


Yesterday at the cafe:

“What about Neil?”

“I don't want to do the long-distance thing. Y'know, keep starting and stopping.”

“At least YOU'VE had a relationship after your divorce.”

“No, I'm pretty sure I keep seeing the same person  — over and over again.”

This morning, on the phone with my mother:

"What's going on with Neil?"



This is the video Neil helped my friends The Travesties make last summer. We were "happy just bumming around".


Jayne Martin said...

“No, I'm pretty sure I keep seeing the same person — over and over again.”

Boy. Can I relate to that. Count me grateful for early menopause and the depletion of all those pesky hormones that caused me nothing but a lot of angst and trouble.

Merry Christmas, Juli.

Chrisor (@ynotkissme) said...

First, congrats on passing all your papers! I knew you could do it. :-) Relationships are SO complicated. Being so many thousands of miles apart, can't really help. I had high hopes for you and Neil as a couple since you both seemed to fill a void that the other had. Then again, some people believe that people come in your life at just the right time but not necessarily forever. Cherish the memores and the time you shared and you never know, circumstances could change for either one of you at any time.

Rainbow Motel said...

I'll leave a comment when I can think of something clever to say. Wait...never mind. I think I just commented.

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lisahgolden said...

I want to say something insightful, but all I'm left with is....yeah.

It's good to see you writing again, Juli. xoxo

dk said...

sometimes if you want a relationship to go somewhere you have to do the driving. just saying.