tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2886936654101087197.post4705545072975356864..comments2023-06-02T02:54:06.247+12:00Comments on Wellington Road: Does sex make it impossible for men and women to be friends?Julihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03244459055520883039noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2886936654101087197.post-84457708404918179472010-08-29T11:40:43.798+12:002010-08-29T11:40:43.798+12:00I think it depends largely on what other relations...I think it depends largely on what other relationships exist outside of the male/female friendship and how attractive to the other the man and woman are. <br /><br />For instance, where I am now, madly in love with my best friend, almost desperately sexually attracted to her after 16 years, the only female friendships I would have or do have are through her. I've hung out with her friendswithout her for one reason or another and it's just fine. They are my friends as well. But mostly they are really an extension of her. There is nothing sexual, interest or appreciation. And by the way, for me sexual interest or appreciation when one is in a committed relationship might be different than actually having sex, but not by much.<br /><br />Now, say I'm a single guy. Love the man/woman friendship. If I'm sexually attracted to her, I'm hoping for more. If I'm not, then it's a safe friendship devoid of the guy machismo pissing contests. It would be impossible for the single me to be friends with an attractive woman without thinking about the possibility of eventually having sex with her. That is simply how I'm built. I think it's how most men and women are built. But unlike what you said in your post about guys, that is much different than being simple or easy to figure out. That aspect of who I am, sure. Easy call. The rest, good luck. My wife has had me for 16 years and she's still a little confused.<br /><br />There's another level here. The internet/blogging/tweeting friendship. Certainly we can all argue that these aren't really friendships, but rather associations. Right, of course. But that's semantics. They are man/woman relationships. Because of the distance, because the association is strictly language with no possibility for any actual flirting, sharing pheromones, touching hands, there is the possibility of friendship free of the sexual tension, and also the possibility of friendship without endangering a long-term committed relationship, such as a 15-year marriage. I consider this a gift of the internet and I'm glad it is the case.<br /><br />Interesting post. I can't say I agree with all your assumptions, but I do appreciate your viewpoint.<br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />CaseyCasey Freelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01258967374124497696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2886936654101087197.post-64675597114262440942010-08-27T07:59:22.268+12:002010-08-27T07:59:22.268+12:00I appreciate my male friends for how they are diff...I appreciate my male friends for how they are different from women. Sometimes I haven't been so deft at boundaries and that causes trouble, but it's not enough to make me want to swear off all male friends.<br /><br />My husband probably has more female friends than male friends. It doesn't worry me. I like it that he can travel in that world, too.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2886936654101087197.post-48573147716338045402010-08-27T06:27:39.802+12:002010-08-27T06:27:39.802+12:00My other half and I have friends of the opposite s...My other half and I have friends of the opposite sex and neither of us are jealous. I think it all comes down to a matter or trust really. <br /><br />By the way, congratulations on nearly having 100 followers, way to go!Happy Frog and Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02679066739313347920noreply@blogger.com