16.1.11

Judging vs. perceiving

My timeline on Twitter recently had a thread about the Myers Briggs personality test (MBTI). Have you taken this test before? You can find versions of it online. It's an interesting way to look at different personalities and value systems.

I am INFJ, which means I am Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging. (I am quite Perceiving though.) Only one percent of the American population is INFJ.

The judging and perceiving processes have to do with our relationships with the outside world. A judging style approaches the outside world with a plan. A perceiving style takes the outside world as it comes. All people use both approaches to organize their thoughts and make decisions. But one style takes the lead in the outside world, and the other style governs our inner world.

After my last post—I really think I'm having a midlife crisis—my mother said I'm too hard on myself. This is true. I need to have more compassion for myself.

"And more compassion for others," Adam said.

But it's also my personality. It’s just how INFJ's are. We are driven perfectionists who always doubt we are living up to our potential. We expect a lot from ourselves and from others.

Which type are you?

11 comments:

bettyl said...

I thought I recognized your letters, but to be sure I took the test again and--yes, I am one of you, too!!

But, aren't the words just a matter of semantics? I'm not sure I agree with how the test 'labeled' me, but they can call it whatever they like.

I think deep down, we all know what we need to work on and the older I get, the more I realized what parts of me can be negotiated.

Life is not easy. The bad things just make us appreciate the good things that much more.

V-Grrrl @ Compost Studios said...

I am also an INFJ. So is Neil. So are many of our online friends. We concluded INFJ may only be 1-3 percent of the real world population but is probably 97 percent of bloggers. Of course, look at INFJ careers and you get writers, counselors, therapists, so it makes sense.

girlvaughn.com said...

ISTJ (introversion, sensing, thinking, judgment).

go introverts!

jamie said...

Very interesting - I'm INFJ as well! I guess I'd have to agree that our group includes the best bloggers. But it's true that we are also too hard on ourselves.

Katie L. said...

I am also an INFJ. I guess it's not surprising that many of your readers are INFJs, is it? We need to flock together. :)
Ah, yes. The life of the high-achiever who is never satisfied with oneself. I have long believed that my dissatisfaction with others is just a projection of my dissatisfaction with myself. Kind of surprisingly, when I was doing a lot of Qigong, I was much kinder to myself. Therefore, I was nicer for others to be around. (Although I think most others don't begin to know what an unpleasant person I am underneath.)
Anyway, just some thoughts.
xoxoxoxoxo to you, my friend.

Café Chick said...

When I first took the test years ago, I came out as ISTP with extreme I and P and borderline S/N and T/F. Now, I seem to be INFP, which I identify with better. Interesting that there was a subtle change over the years.

Here's my blog post about it - I love the INFP posters.
Clutter and world peace

Happy Frog and I said...

I haven't taken the test yet, but I know I have to force myself not to be too hard on myself. To be less of a perfectionist. When I do, I do feel happier. Your post got me thinking, which is always good, so thanks! Plus I'm new to Twitter and have followed you. :-)

Zeb said...

We did the proper MBTI test (got my report n all 6th edition) and yeah it's really interesting stuff.

I'm an INFJ too and I had a good giggle at your tweet about percentages. Too true though.

p.s. I actually disagreed with mine initially. While we were doing the excercise to introduce us to MBTI I classified myself as a ISFJ. I've decided I'm both, just depends on my mood ;)

Nocturnal Queen said...

I'm ISFJ. The Protector. The description seems accurate to me. Loyal, responsible, follow the rules, traditional, shy, sympathetic, sincere, loner and of course introverted.

Lisa said...

I'm the sore thumb! I'm an ENFP. And yes, please be gentle with yourself.
I know that sounds like so much crap, but I mean it.

uncouthheathen said...

I'm an INFP.