4.2.10

I was unfriended again on Facebook.

I notice when someone unfriends me on Facebook. I just can't help it. I guess it's Facebook policy not to let you know who unfriends you. So I puzzle it out with my big brain (that is obsessed with memorizing lists). I mentally go through my friends. I run queries until I work it out. “Was it you, was it you, was it you?” It doesn’t really matter, but I can’t rest until I solve the puzzle. (I am creepy, and I will find you.)

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A few months ago, my Facebook friends were only people I know in real life. But I don’t really know my Facebook friends from 20 years ago. I know my bloggie friends better than I know (most of) my high school and college friends. So I have decided to become Facebook friends with my bloggie friends. (I know! CRAZY!) That (sort of) famous blogger who asked me to be his Facebook friend? Yeah, we are Facebook friends now. (My life is so much better.)

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On my Facebook, I post photos of the child. (He's real!) His name is on Facebook. But I am still leery about posting photos of him on Wellington Road. Because he is a minor, and I don’t want to exploit his image. (cough) Yeah, even the child doesn’t understand it. He wants me to post photos of him on Wellington Road. And I know it’s dumb, because nobody really gives a shit. But I’m just not ready.

13 comments:

injaynesworld said...

I try to keep Facebook to my personal friends. I interact so much with my bloggie friends just through Twitter and blogs and e-mail. Also, by keeping the list small I can search out and destroy anyone who un-friends me.

V-Grrrl @ Compost Studios said...

Not only have I not posted photos of my kids on my blog, I won't even post them on Facebook. See, you're way more *normal* than me.

Madame DeFarge said...

I'm only on Facebook as my blog alter ego, which is a bit of a cop out, but if I was on here as me, then I'd feel rather odd. Having a persona allows me to be slightly more interesting (I know, how can that be possible?). But boo to the person that unfriends you.

bettyl said...

I'm only on Facebook because somebody sent me an invite. I have found some 'friends' from the past, but I keep it to just ME stuff.
I drill it into the kids not to put personal stuff out there, so they have aliases on my blog, too. I think that's not too 'over the top'.

My theory is: If somebody wanted to find one of us that badly, we couldn't stop them.

Elly said...

Oh hard out! I was unfriended by a girl who used to be my BFF (post here, if you're interested http://bit.ly/B6q3j ) but it was all very sneaky and crazy. I'm on facebook as me, and only have a few blog friends as facebook friends. It's an interesting combination :)

Sarah said...

I unfriend people all the time on Facebook. I like my FB account to be about people that I have a relationship with in real life too. I'm very selective about people I let befriend me anyway. Honestly, if you don't really know the person that well I wouldn't be too offended.

Secret Mom Thoughts said...

I feel that way when someone unfollows my blog.

Ann's Rants said...

Facebook made me a headcase, so I quit it.

It should be called HeadCase, actually.

Sarah said...

As you know, our blog has our children plastered all over it - as it's a wonderful way for our family in the UK to keep up to date with their Grandchildren and all our activities. However, I'm careful not to disclose where we live exactly and don't have the school or kindi signs in any pics or mention where they go.

My Facebook is personal friends mostly, with a couple of bloggers who I've been following for a while and have built up a 'relationship' with.

Mad Woman said...

I do kind of wish that Facebook would tell you when someone has unfriended you. But it gives me a puzzle. I have some bloggie friends on there too....lots of pics of my kids in both places though.

Found you through Kiwi Mummy Blogs. Glad I did!

Sweet Jane said...

Ohhh the unfriend. I love it! When my bf's evil exboyfriend did something even more stoopid than breaking up with her? Unfriend. When the kid from 7th grade did a rant about something ridiculous and politically lame and well, WRONG? Unfriend. It's all the control I have left in the world, and it's a quick little click of a power trip. Bwhahahahahha!

Don't worry my bloggee facebook friend, it won't ever happen. I will never unfriend you! Never! We've got parallel lives and other still yet unknown similarities and I'm your biggest fan. If I ever disappear it's because I've finally gotten freaked out by the FB thing and the Blog thing and unplugged completely. Highly unlikely but I think you're right about the picture thing.

Robin said...

Like you, I have lived in different places (not as far apart, certainly!) so I use Facebook to keep up with widespread friends with whom I am not close enough to ring up but I still like to stay in some contact. I love how everyone makes FB his or her own...

Debra Twardowski said...

I love this topic. I never gave old friends a thought. Now if my friend number goes down, I wonder why...was it something I said? Am I too old for this kind of worry?